A Better Birth

Wow! I know, I am the worst blogger known to man. I just never feel that I have something important to write about. However, I have been meaning to write this post for a while now. Life has just taken off and I lost track of time. Sorry to family and friends!

So, I have been wanting to  write about the pregnancy and the birthing method Jared and I have decided upon. I get mixed reactions when people find out that I will not be giving birth in a hospital. Some just stare at me, at which point I just walk away because the awkwardness is more than  either of us can bare or I get some really positive reactions.  I personally feel that it is each woman's decision on how she wants this experience to be and I strongly suggest that a couple do all of the research that they can about the different methods out there and then make your own decision. Granted, I do understand that there are some situation that you just cannot avoid and you have to take the necessary steps.

No, I am not going out into the woods to give birth in nature( although that could be really enlightening...hmmm, maybe baby #2;)) I still am not sure why one lady thought that since I was not going to be giving birth in a hospital that nature would be my only other option. Oh well! I will only be asking one element to  join me in this birth: water. Jared and I have decided to go the path of a water birth in a birthing center with a midwife. I couldn't be more excited! I really want to be able to fully experience this moment in my life and what would be best for our baby.  Some feel that giving natural birth is something that radical feminist do to prove something to the world. I am not doing this in order to inducted into feminism-hood. (Totally just made up a word. Think it will catch on Jen?) Yeah, I know it is not going to be a cake walk, but I have a strong partner and others that will be in attendance to help me through this hard work and I believe in my body knowing what to do.

To be honest, the most important thing to me was that Jared could be as involved as much as possible. This is such an important event in his life in becoming a father. I remember when Derrick and Jen were telling me about their experience while Jen was giving birth to Felicity and how it was a very bonding experience for them. I have strongly desired that since talking to them about their experience. The creation of this baby was done as a team and so will bringing him or her into the world. When we first met with our midwives at the birthing center they asked what we wanted and I told them how important to me it is that Jared is as involved as possible. They told us that would not be a problem, that is will be our experience and they want to make it was we desire. Jared can get in the tub to help me push, catch the baby and cut the cord. Trust me, when Jared heard that he could do all of those things his face lit up like a kid on Christmas morning. He is planning to do it all! I do have to say one of my favorite parts about being pregnant is how involved and how excited Jared is about this baby and about becoming a father.  I love it that when he comes home from work he gives me a hug and a kiss and then rubs my belly to say "hi" to his little one. I don't even think he realizes that he does it sometime. It has become so automatic for him now. :)

We are also going to start a hypno-birthing class. Being a psychology major I definitely believe in the power of the mind. Granted it can work for our good or bad, but I feel that the hypno-birthing will be one of those good times. We will learn how we  can train my mind to work for my good during the birthing process. More to come on those classes. :)

 Now, please do not get me wrong, I am not anti-hospital! Jared and I just felt that the hospital would not be the best place for us to have the experience that we are desiring. Here are some pictures where I will be giving birth. Nice, right?!?!

The birthing jet tub.

Waiting room for family and friends. Notice the nice tv. Now dad will have something to do while mom helps me scream and push. ;)


The birthing room where we will stay after the baby is here. :)

Kitchen for when Jared needs to refuel his energy.

If you are interested in a great documentary I suggest that you check out "The Business of Being Born."